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Lessons From Buffy, My Persistent Kitty

Every morning between 4:00 and 4:30 a.m., without fail, my cat Buffy jumps on the bed, intending to wake me up so she can get me to feed her. You may wonder how I know my cat’s intentions. Well, animals are great communicators if you know how to tap into what they are telling you.

When I get up, Buffy runs out of the room and toward Read the rest of this entry »

Fear and Hatred Replay in Adult Relationships

Xena: “I let my fear and hatred blind me to everything.”
Gabrielle: “Sometimes the past can do that. Xena, if I had been through what you’ve been through…”
Xena: “No. No! You understand hatred but you’ve never given into it. You don’t know how much I love that.” –
Excerpt from “The Price,” a second season episode of “Xena: Warrior Princess.” Read the rest of this entry »

Learning Marriage Skills: What You Don’t Know You Can Learn

Marriage is a process in which two unrelated people get together to build a life apart from the people they grew up with. It’s understandable that these two people may have little to no experience or skills in the art of being married.

Most of the training the majority of people have had comes from their parents. Some parents provided Read the rest of this entry »

Silent Treatment Spells Danger for Your Marriage

Whether you have been married for decades or you are recently starting a life together as a couple, how you handle difficulties in your marriage can mean the difference between a happy, safe, and intimate relationship and a frustratingly distant one.

William Glasser, MD, creator of Choice Theory, says that when we are unhappy with our situation, we Read the rest of this entry »

Jealousy: 7 Signs Jealousy is Out of Control

Jealousy is a normal, human reaction to experiencing someone else getting attention that we hoped was directed only toward us. Siblings experience jealousy when their mother spends more time with or gives more attention to a brother or sister. Children experience jealousy when one child is singled out in school or a social setting to receive attention the others were hoping for. Read the rest of this entry »

Positive Thinking Power: Retrain Your Brain

My late husband was a great fan of Muhammad Ali. He grew up under difficult circumstances when his father contracted tuberculosis and spent two years in a sanatorium. During those formative years, he and his friends would listen to Ali’s fights on the radio, and television if they were lucky.

In my late husband’s childhood and adolescence, Ali was the Read the rest of this entry »

Marriage Complaints: Take this Challenge

When I was in college I lived very near my grandparents and I would visit them often after classes. A curious thing began to happen as I spent time alone with my grandmother. She began to confide in me, as she never had before, about her disagreements with my grandfather. I was 18 years old and this was quite strange to me. Read the rest of this entry »

Marriage and Control: My Way or Ours?

“In my family we did it that way.” Is this a familiar argument in your marriage? Does using this argument help sway your spouse to do things your way? Or if you are the one who is constantly hearing this argument from your spouse, do you end up clenching your fists in silent rage each time it comes up? Read the rest of this entry »

Negative Beliefs and Dating: Talk Back to These Beliefs

“For there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” Hamlet

If you think dating is easy and fun, you are right. If you think dating is hard and painstaking, you are right. How can this be? What do these two contradictory sentences have in common? Two things: you and your thoughts. You are the creator Read the rest of this entry »

Newlywed Spread: Honeymoon Weight Gain

“She’s like a baby, I’m like a cat. When we are happy we both get fat.” “Life in a Nutshell” by the Barenaked Ladies.

People talk about the “freshman spread,” that unfortunate 10 to 15 pound average college students gain in the first year of their studies away from home. Less well known is the “newlywed spread” Read the rest of this entry »

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