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Bad relationships gone good

I was divorced at age 27 from a good man. Would you be surprised that despite having completed a Masters degree in Counseling Psychology, I knew next to nothing about Read the rest of this entry »

Lessons From Buffy, My Persistent Kitty

Every morning between 4:00 and 4:30 a.m., without fail, my cat Buffy jumps on the bed, intending to wake me up so she can get me to feed her. You may wonder how I know my cat’s intentions. Well, animals are great communicators if you know how to tap into what they are telling you.

When I get up, Buffy runs out of the room and toward Read the rest of this entry »

Squirrel obstacle course; are you as persistent?

Do you have what it takes to create a lasting marriage? Do you give up at the first sign of difficulties? People who are “stubbornly Read the rest of this entry »

Relationship blues: are you tired and ready to give up?

Is your relationship difficult? Are you feeling tired and overwhelmed, thinking, “It shouldn’t be so hard!” Are you ready to give up on your current relationship or on relationships in general?

Sometimes, being in a relationship, even a mostly healthy one, can be difficult. Sometimes even a happy marriage goes through some major bumps in Read the rest of this entry »

Are you “shoulding” on yourself?

I know from a lifetime of experience that I tend to be very hard on myself. Maybe you can relate.

I “know” that I am a human being and, as such, not going to be at my best 100% of the time, yet I beat myself up when I am not, “shoudling” on myself (I should do better, know better, be better).

I am learning how to accept myself as being imperfect and human. Read the rest of this entry »

Assumptions: Don’t believe everything you think

Sometimes in your relationship you may get caught up in assuming you know what your spouse intended to do or why s/he behaves in a certain way. This video challenges you to be aware of thoughts that keep you stuck and to examine those thoughts instead of just automatically believing them.

Get a copy of my book, Creating Happily Ever After: a Marriage Manual for What to do After the Honeymoon is Over, at

See the one you love with loving eyes

Here’s an excerpt from

Creating Happily Ever After: A Marriage Manual
for What to Do After the Honeymoon is Over.

A loving relationship can go a long way to heal the hurts of the past. When you are in a loving relationship: Read the rest of this entry »

New accountability group. Want to join?

Raise your hand if you want to be accountable with me!

As I was doing my daily walk today, I was thinking about you. Yes, I’m always thinking about my readers, my clients, and potential clients.

I was thinking about how difficult it is to make the changes that you (and I) say you want. I know for a fact that most diets DO work. What doesn’t work for too many people is keeping the motivation going to meet your weight loss goals. Read the rest of this entry »

Self-control is key in creating a happy marriage

This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, Creating Happily Ever After. I’d love your thoughts and comments.

I think that self-control is something many people would be wise to exercise and few master. Failing to exercise self-control, people turn to controlling others as a way to deal with feeling out of control. Read the rest of this entry »

My new book: creating happily ever after!

I have been so focused on getting my upcoming book written and edited that I’ve neglected my blog. The new book is about relationships, of course. It is a compilation of my 18 years of practice as a therapist and relationship coach.

Basically, what you’ll find in this book is very practical tips and tools that you Read the rest of this entry »

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