Posts Tagged ‘Relationships’

Don’t look at me in that tone of face!

Don’t look your spouse in the eyes unless you have the look of love!

Don\’t Look At Me With That Tone of Face!

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Face to Face contact so important

Face to face contact with those you love is necessary to thrive

My life has been quite different since I moved to California at the tail end of 2008. I haven’t seen my mother or grandmother in 2 years. I last saw my sister during Christmas. I am so blessed to be visiting with 4 generations of my family at once in just a few days!

Do you sometimes feel disconnected from loved ones? I know that technology helps to connect us in ways that were not possible even 50 years ago, much less 200 years.

I’m a Jane Austen fanatic. I love the romance of Read the rest of this entry »

Ask Michelle Anything

Do you have a burning question about dating? Marriage? Being single? Divorce? Widowhood? Finding love again after loss? Making your good marriage great? Troubles with inlaws? Sexual frustrations?

Whatever your question about relationships, Michelle Vasquez would love to answer them. The Read the rest of this entry »

Creating Happily Ever After

Hi, I’m Michelle Vásquez with True Love Relationship Coaching. I have over 18 years experience as a Licensed Professional Counselor in Texas working with couples helping them learn communication and problem-solving skills.

With my training and background as a marriage therapist helping couples solve their marital problems, I understand couples at a deep level. Read the rest of this entry »

Marriage Maintenance

My two cents on how marriage maintenance can help your marriage to thrive and expanding your relationship tool box.

From the desk of Michelle E. Vásquez

This week has flown by and we’re already into September. For that matter, the year has gone by in a whirlwind and we’re approaching the holiday season once again. Keep an eye out for webinars I’ll offer around dealing with holiday stress.

What’s New?

This week I was thinking about relationships and how easy it is to create either happiness or misery. Here are three behaviors that can definitely put a strain on your relationship:
Three Relationship Killers

Do you have what it takes to create a successful marriage? Emotional
maturity is something some folks never accomplish, no matter how many
years they live. I propose that immaturity, self-centered behavior, and
the desire for instant gratification are three reasons why marriages
fail. All of these behaviors combined with the attitude of “if it does
not work out, we will just go our separate ways” contribute to a high
divorce rate.

What is emotional immaturity? Some people live by
the maxim, “I may grow old, but I refuse to grow up.” This may be
humorous when seen on a T-shirt, but when people take this attitude into
their marriages, they are setting themselves and their relationship up
for misery. This does not mean that you have to be serious all the time;
far from it. It just means that you cannot allow your emotions to rule
you and to affect how you behave toward your spouse.

Self-centered behavior is not the same as taking care of yourself.

You must take care of yourself if you are going to be fully present for
your loved ones. No, being self-centered or selfish is all about the “me
first” attitude. “My needs are more important than yours” is the rally
cry of the self-centered person. A self-centered person tends to
criticize and blame rather than looking at her/his own behavior. A
self-centered person sees nothing wrong with manipulating her spouse to
get her way. A self-centered person thinks nothing of putting his family
in danger by drinking and driving.

What about instant gratification? Since the advent
of fast food, we seem to have become more of an instant gratification
society. “I want it in 30 seconds and I want it hot and tasty and
inexpensive.” For some people, if everything is not perfect and to their
liking, they tend to resort to complaints about their marriage. They
think of their marriage like fast food instead of fine dining. It
becomes a disposable commodity instead of something to be treasured and
enjoyed.

Marriage requires maintenance to make it successful. It will require
extra work if you are engaging in these damaging behaviors. The good
news is that you, too, can create a happier marriage if you are willing
to begin with yourself. Are you willing to put in the time and energy to
help your marriage become a strong one? If so, you can do it. You do
not have to do it alone; relationship coaching can help.

I would love to have you leave your comments about this article in the comment box below.

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Upcoming events:
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Weekly webinar where you can pick my brains about any relationship question you can think of.

Ask Michelle Anything
On Tuesday, September 7 I have a special guest, Kristine Castro.
She will be giving us a Conversational Tour of her Everlasting Honeymoon Program.
If you are signed up to receive notices about the Ask Michelle Anything webinars, you don’t need to do a thing; I’ll remind you. If not, sign up here.

Monthly webinar with Rev. Elaine Torrance-Gingrich

This month’s topic:
Life after Loss…After Life Experiences

Tuesday, September 28
5:00pm pacific/8:00pm eastern

If you’re not yet signed up for this fun and informative monthly webinar,
Sign up here.
I appreciate you, Michelle

From the desk of Michelle E. Vásquez

I’m doing something new and you get to be the first to see it. That is, unless you are receiving this message as a plain text email. If what you see looks like a page of my web site, then you are seeing the newthing I’m up to today. Read the rest of this entry »

My late husband’s musings on marriage

On the subject of marriage:

You and I are like two little kids walking down the same road. We choose to keep the same pace so that we remain side by side. We like each other’s company and, besides, walking side-by-side has the added benefit that when either one of us trips, the other is there to help. Isn’t that the whole point?

Adalberto Vásquez, 1945-2007

Deal-breaker trinity

Choose your life partner carefully

If you are seeking a relationship you need to understand your Requirements for a happy, successful relationship at the very beginning of your search for the one for you. It is also important that you be judicious in selecting your Requirements. Read the rest of this entry »

Dating confusion? Relationship questions?

If you are single and struggling to figure out the new and ever-changing world of dating, you’ve come to the right place. If you have been in a series of unsuccessful relationships, welcome. If your relationship is fraught with conflict, I’m glad you have come here.

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