Every morning between 4:00 and 4:30 a.m., without fail, my cat Buffy jumps on the bed, intending to wake me up so she can get me to feed her. You may wonder how I know my cat’s intentions. Well, animals are great communicators if you know how to tap into what they are telling you.
When I get up, Buffy runs out of the room and toward the kitchen. Without fail, I close the door so she cannot jump on me and awake me again. Maui, my other cat, remains sleeping contentedly on the bed during this morning ritual. She is not as persistently “food-focused” as Buffy is.
What makes Buffy so persistent, given that every morning is the same thing? She wakes me; I close the door. Every morning. Although I can understand what she wants from me, I do not understand why she doesn’t eventually give up. If it were me and I got the same rejection every day for over 18 months, I would be more likely to say, “Forget this; what I need is opposable thumbs so I can get my own food!”
Maui and Buffy are nearing their second birthdays, so I would think they would know the routine by now. Javier feeds them when he gets up, which is fairly early, but not as early as Buffy wants her breakfast.
As she woke me this morning, I realized that there is a lesson here about being persistent in the face of disappointments and rejection. No, I don’t mean you should become a stalker if the one you are interested in has given clear and regular signs that s/he does not return your affections.
I like to think of it as staying hopeful even in the face of disappointments. Striving toward the goals, dreams, and visions for your life, despite setbacks and unwanted detours is difficult. It also brings some pretty awesome rewards if you can stay focused.
How persistent are you? How easy is it for you to persist when you cannot see progress at the rate and speed you expect?
What if your relationship with the one you love is feeling heavy and stuck? How persistent are you in working toward resolution? In seeking answers? In maintaining hope that you can work it out?
Please remember that you do not have to figure it all out all alone. That’s why I do what I do. I help people who are struggling with their relationships to find their own answers and create the solutions that work for them. I also help you to remain in a state of hope while you seek to define your answers and create a plan of action. I help you stay focused and accountable to what you want to achieve in your relationship goals.
Take this lesson from my cat, Buffy, and maintain that optimism, realizing that you do not have to do it alone. I invite you to talk with me about how we can work together. You can simply reply to this email and we’ll set a time to have a no obligation chat to talk about your relationship goals and how I can help you with them.